Immune Activating Elderberry Syrup Latte + Shoulds vs Musts in Online Sharing

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I’m writing this in a hotel room in Stockholm, its early morning and the full Taurus Supermoon is still shining brightly, keeping me company. This text is a must for me. It has been building up since spring and finally I put the pieces together. This is something that needs to be talked about and I have a feeling you’ll be able to relate.

Online sharing from our shoulds rather than our musts and when it’s time to effing stop (& start!)

So go get yourself a cuppa (Immune Activating Elderberry Latte?), curl up in a cosy nook and have a read. If you’re here only for the Fun & Fabulous Facts about Elderberries + the recipe, scroll down.

The strange thing that made me reevaluate my online presence

A couple of years back, me and Fabian began listening to Tony Robbins, we have his PowerTalk cd’s in the car and the value we continue to get from these talks is just mega. Early this summer, one of the things he mentions suddenly popped into my heart. ’What are your shoulds and what are your musts?’

This was around the time a tiny life began growing in my belly (yup! expecting a lil’ one in February!) and all of a sudden I wasn’t only struck by ’morning sickness’ but it turned out I completely resented all of technology (and a couple of other more edible things). Although I knew I ’should’, just thinking of picking up my phone or opening my computer made me want to throw up. This is how I was forced to see my time and how I used it in new light, what my ’shoulds’ and ’musts’ really were and how we got to a place where our ’shoulds’ are prioritized over our ’musts’. 

So what do I mean by a ’should’ and a ’must’? It’s simple really, a should is something we believe we need to do because our parent said so, a friend did so or someone we look up to spoke about it. You should have that certain look to be viewed as successful, you should get that degree, you should have the latest phone, you should be really social, you should, you should, you should. Ah!

The musts are way more fun. When you put a must next to a should it becomes clear which one of those two are rooted in You instead of being based on What Other People Say/Do. Take one of my musts for example. I must spend time outside every day or else I loose it. I might think ’I really should take that walk now’ and suddenly it looks like a ’should’. But! When compared to ’gosh I really should be more engaged in social media today’ it becomes obvious which one of those two will create a larger sense of accomplishment and ultimately long lasting true goodness.

The (seemingly) radical solution 

There I was realizing that a lot of the time, posting and sharing online felt like a ’should’ which in turn made me confused as it definitely began as one of my ’musts’. This one needed some thinking.

So what did I do? I took a big ass break from all of it. Stopped instagramming, removed the social media apps, stopped blogging and started just being in the very real life that I have here. I lived my ’musts’ and let so many of my ’shoulds’ wander off to Neverland and let me tell you, being the 15 projects at once-entrepreneur that I am, it was weird at first but then it was just so, so good.

Months have now passed and I want to share what I took with me from all of this and I truly hope you’ll find value in it. Please share your own experiences in the comments below and/or send this text to a friend. I have a feeling I’m not alone in thinking like this.

What happens when we prioritize shoulds over musts in our online presence? (This aint pretty)

Our world is so heavy with shoulds that the things we’re supposed to be most easily tuned into – our musts – are difficult to access. Being in our musts -the things aligned with our core and purpose of our souls- are only seen when we take the time to identify and then remove the shoulds, or the fluff as I like to call it. If you are reading this, chances are you live in a world with a hellah lot of fluff too and peeling some of it off sure does ask something from us. Intention and a little time. This in turn requires that we pause all the things we’re so busy with (like technology, even if it’s for work) for a couple of minutes a day. I know that when we’re in the middle of all the fluff, taking this break feels difficult. But seriously, 3 minutes to tap into our own true genius and align ourselves with our inner GPS-system is quite reasonable, wouldn’t you agree?

As noted previously, our online presence -a site, Instagram, blog, vlog or whatever- may very well be rooted in a must of ours. I know this to be the case for both myself and many others reading here and now I aslo know this can get complicated. We feel a strong urge to create and share but we also have to remember to stop and fill ourselves up to actually be of service. This can be tricky when ’shoulds’ are sometimes whispered in our minds about what other people do and how successful they are by doing so.

So what’s the solution? I believe it to be this: taking that 3 min pause each day will help us align with our truth, passion and mission -our musts- and from this place the content we post will have true value. Plus, you’ll have more fun creating. Withholding posting/sharing just because your presence ”needs” to be continuous, is way better in the long run.. I fully believe that people sense when we’re sharing from our shoulds rather than from our musts. Our love and care will always radiate incredibly strongly from creations born out of our musts and that right there, is noticeable.

Drawing in our real tribe by only sharing from our musts

This is all tied to something I’ve thought about tons; connecting with and finding our community and tribe. I wondered, could my passion to share and be in a global community exist without using social media daily (”everyone else” does it that way?!). I realized something sad. There seems to be a fine line between wanting to connect with the souls I have the privilege to know thanks to the internet, and the feeling that I should put out daily content to have ’a presence’ on the web.

What I thankfully then remembered was this: the ones that are meant to be in our sphere will be there. I trust that. To create true community, online sharing from a place of honesty, inspiration and realness -consequences of living our musts- is where it’s at. Our truth will without a doubt call in the ones that are meant to stand beside us. Our tribe, our forest. So if you need a pause, take a freaking pause! If you come back to sharing online you’ll then most likely be stronger and more rooted in your purpose which in turn will help attract your tribe.

So.. Why the eff don’t we pause?!

So what makes us not take those tech-related ’should’-breaks then? If we know and trust that the people who are meant to be around will be around? It’s fear. It’s us needing reassurance that we are important and good enough. That we are part of something and ultimately that we’re being seen. When we share from our shoulds, the risk is that it’ll be rooted in the fear of what will happen if we drop quantity-wise in our online presence. A fear that the trustworthy dependability of regular posting will lead to loosing ’followers’ and us being forgotten.

Know that our actions will always impact others. Check in! Does your actions spring from some form of fear (a bit annoyed I noted this was true for me at times) OR from what you truly want it to be rooted in?

So am I done now? Lesson learned? 100% in my musts and not confused at all? Well.. no. This is a journey, it’s not easy and I have to remind myself daily to take those 3 min (or much longer) breaks to reevaluate and connect. However, it’s very rewarding once I’m in that space and when I can share and post aligned with my souls musts. Like today. Like with this text. 

Can you relate? I have a feeling you can. Because you know it too, ultimately we’re in this life to be, work and create from our core. From our souls musts. There is no other way to truly make a difference in our own lives and in this world. Yes, creating from our heart and soul takes courage and we will always need each other to do the work we’re here to do. A forest is always stronger than one lonely tree and I think that’s the beauty of it. We need our sisters and brothers. We will always need to follow our own inner GPS but we will always need support to do so.

Major Takeaway + Call to Action

Think about this: how can hopping off the Instagram-bandwagon for 6 weeks be radical? How can pressing pause on weekly blogging/whatever make you feel stressed out and like a complete failure? Many times in our life we will have things that we need to prioritize more then our online presence (yes again, even if it’s related to work). I think we have to remember that while technology and all the possibilities it brings is absolutely amazing, life, our very real life still goes on and is waiting for us to stop, stare a bit …and be in awe. 

Once the de-cluttering is done, when the weight of the shoulds is lifted, what is left is the genius and purpose of You and that is pretty awesome.

So back to the beginning, how do we share from our ’musts’ rather then from our ’shoulds’?

By peeling away the fluff of the ’shoulds’ and prioritize our ’musts’ first. Let us all check in and be certain that the things we share are not rooted in What Other People Say/Do but rather firmly based in Us and all of our real, raw, passion and light.

Only then will our sharing —whenever it happens— have grand value and carry miracles.

Immune Activating Elderberry Syrup Latte + Shoulds vs Musts in Online Sharing @ www.Earthsprout.comImmune Activating Elderberry Syrup Latte + Shoulds vs Musts in Online Sharing @ www.Earthsprout.com

Fun & Fabulous Facts

Elderberry lemonade and elderberry jam I knew of but it’s only since I began walking on this path of natural nutrition, plant alchemy and organic gardening that I heard of elderberry syrup. Look no further for your all natural, flu shot, friends! 3-ish years ago when I truly understood the potent power of these berries I decided they were to be an important part of my handcrafted Nordic Superfood Mix. Elderberries (Sambucus Nigra) is a true fall tonic that offer us a glorious party of the things our body need to prepare for these cooler months ahead. These black/purple gems have been used in folk remedies for centuries and were revered by romans for their ability to stimulate the immune system.

What we know -apart from it’s impressive part in natural medicine in history- is that the amount of flavonoids in their dark skin has anti oxidative power that support over-all cell health thus strengthening our cells resistance to infections and general cell damage. Whoop Whoop I say with all the runny noses around during fall. Elderberries are famous for the enormous amount of Vitamin C that they carry and when it comes to immune support Vitamin C is golden. Sidetone: Vitamin C also help our body to absorb the important iron which is why it’s a such a good buddy of the iron-rich nettle in the #nordicsuperfoodmix. Some studies show that elderberries not only acts as a strengthening preventor of infection but also very effectively speeds up flu/cold recovery. Get this! Elderberries are known to be effective against eight (!) strains of influenza including a couple of strains of strep bacteria known to be responsible for throat infections (which is why elderberry is commonly used to treat coughs or soar throats). In my Elderberry Syrup the berries are paired with the powerful medicine of antiviral, antibiotic and health supporting raw honey + selected spices to make a potent, natural (and cheap) flu shot.

How to use the Elderberry Syrup Elderberries are the fruit of the Elder tree native to Europe and North America and you collect the berries once they’ve turned dark purple, almost black. It’s not suggested to eat unripe or raw elderberries because it may induce vomiting and nausea. If you still wish to get their raw power it’s best to dehydrate them and only eat 2-3 berries a day in a smoothie/porridge/baked goods. We need to remember that this natural medicine is very potent and ought to be consumed with that in mind. I don’t recommend taking this syrup every day all year around but rather 1 tsp 1-5 times daily depending on your need. Do you feel the onset of a cold or are directly exposed to one? Go for 5 tsp spread out in 1 day for 1-5 days. Feeling like your immune system may need a couple weeks boost? Take 1 tsp daily during those 2 weeks.

Elderberries & Pregnancy/Breastfeeding There are no evidence or enough studies to back up that it would be unsafe to use elderberry during pregnancy but it’s suggested to discuss with you health care provider before taking powerful herbs during those times. I would personally not exceed 1-2 tsp syrup a day for any more than 2 weeks at a time and I would skip it completely during the first 3 months of pregnancy and 1st month of breastfeeding. This is powerful stuff and while it’s an amazing immune support for the slightly weakened immune system of a pregnant mama, it’s also best to use this medicine wisely and with care.

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DIY Elderberry Syrup

2 cups fresh elderberries (dried/frozen ones for an all-year-round possibility)
4 cups water
1 large thumb fresh ginger, peeled + sliced
2 tsp cloves
3 small cinnamon sticks
1 little piece organic lemon peel
15-20 cardamom pods
1/2 cup raw unpasteurized local organic honey, vegans use rice/barley/maple syrup

  1. Go over your elderberries to make sure you’re only using really dark and ripe ones. Rinse thoroughly and add to a medium saucepan along with all ingredients except honey.
  2. Bring to a boil then reduce heat to simmer and cover. Let simmer for 45 minutes, stirring a couple of times to make sure it’s not too hot which would then make the water evaporate all too quickly. 
  3. Over a glass bowl, pour the fragrant elderberry concentrate through a strainer/colander and press thoroughly with the backside of a spoon for a while to make sure you get as much juice as possible from the berries and spices. Discard/compost the remaining pulp + spices and let the concentrate turn room temperature.
  4. Once the concentrate is at room temperature you add the honey and stir. If you add the honey when the concentrate is warmer than room temperature all the active enzymes and components of the honey will be lost.
  5. Pour elderberry syrup into a sterilized glass jar and refrigerate. If you’re unsure how much syrup you’ll consume or if you’re a 1 person household I recommend freezing half the batch.
  6. Read ‘How to use Elderberry Syrup’ above.

Immune Activating Elderberry Latte

serves 1
2/3-1 cup plant milk
1 tsp freshly grated ginger
a dusting of cinnamon
1 tbsp elderberry syrup

Gently heat the plant milk. For this latte I like heating my milk in a milk frother because: foam! Once the milk is warm (not hot!), add the grated ginger and let it sit for a bit. You want to wait until it’s around lukewarm to preserve the active compounds of the raw honey. Now add the Elderberry Syrup, top with cinnamon and devour.

Immune Activating Elderberry Syrup Latte + Shoulds vs Musts in Online Sharing @ www.Earthsprout.comImmune Activating Elderberry Syrup Latte + Shoulds vs Musts in Online Sharing @ www.Earthsprout.com
Friends, it’s on. Next level online sharing based in our musts (+ very strong immune systems). We can do this.

Let me know your thoughts and share away!

All love, Elenore

Combined with some good soul digging and forest walks, these resources helped me understand and develop my buzzing thoughts on True Community + Online Sharing rooted in Musts instead of Shoulds.

Tony Robbins Powertalk cd’s
Oprah Winfreys book, ‘What I know for sure’
Elle Lunas talk ‘ The importance of doing what you love’

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63 Comments

  1. Inês
    1 november, 2015

    Wow Eleonore, such wise and powerful thoughts and words… taking a moment to reconnect with ourselves, with what comes from that place of truth inside of each one of us is crucial, or will end up loosing our voice, our own contribute to make this world a better place and to give to others.
    ”What I thankfully then remembered was this: the ones that are meant to be in our sphere will be there. I trust that. To create true community, online sharing from a place of honesty, inspiration and realness -consequences of living our musts- is where it’s at. Our truth will without a doubt call in the ones that are meant to stand beside us. Our tribe, our forest.” this is so, so true. and your light, your voice is so unique, that your forest will be there, sharing, learning and growing with and besides you.
    thank you :)

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    • ElenoreEarth
      11 november, 2015

      Ines, I so appreciate your words and thoughts and I could not agree more to what you speak of on contribution. It’s what we can do when we’re here and what we do with that opportunity that matters!

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  2. nettelie
    1 november, 2015

    I read Elle Luna’s book recently, and I cried. It’s like I have seen the light. Although most of the time study and work-related stress get the best of me, I know now that what I do is my must (I am pursuing a master’s degree in Literature to become a translator. I MUST do this. I know it. Even though it is hard as hell. But hey, nobody said it was going to be easy.) Also, this article…thank you so much for sharing, dear Elenore. You go and be a happily pregnant, non-sharing greenylicious being. All the love from The Netherlands xo

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    • ElenoreEarth
      11 november, 2015

      I totally hear you nettelie. also, I think that often times when we pursue our musts we take the tough road. We take the road of immense growth and that sure aint easy but honestly every day so worth it, eh!? I congratulate you on following your call! Always love your pics on insta!

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  3. Catherine
    1 november, 2015

    Hi Elenore,

    Thank you for sharing your thoughts and yes you are indeed not alone. I am guilty of following my shoulds over my musts far too often and your post has truly inspired me to take a pause to connect to my true self rather than searching for the answers on the World Wide Web. I particularly agree with your comment about being able to ”spot” posts which come from a place of truth. Thank you again for sharing your wisdom and thank you for having the courage to stay true to your musts…it shows and speaks volumes. Keep doing what you do sista, you are an inspiration x

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    • ElenoreEarth
      11 november, 2015

      Ah! Catherine! My heart seriously sings when reading your words. It’s so so cool how in the same place so many of us are. Our inner answers will never be found on the World Wide Web, your right but it’s still attractive to look there so often (myself included). Which is why it’s such a marvellous thing to see how many connects to these and how much of a difference we can all make. Loads of love!

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  4. Monika
    1 november, 2015

    I wish elderberry season wasn’t over here in Poland! I love the smell of those little jewels and I already miss them… But I’m glad I have some jars of an elderberry syrup, made with a similar recipe. Your latte sounds divine, I need to try it. Do you think it will taste good with oat milk? Or I should rather stick with almond or coconut milk?

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    • ElenoreEarth
      11 november, 2015

      Hey Monika! I actually made mine with oat milk so I do believe yours will turn out marvelous! Ps. don’t forget you can order dried elderberries online if you miss them too much or run out of syrup :)

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  5. Kimberly/TheLittlePlantation
    1 november, 2015

    My husband and I were talking about the need for m to set stricter boundaries aroudn the tie I spend blogging. It’s very hard especially if it’s the start of your blogging ‘career’. So this post is super timely ;) (Though I must confess, I am rather happy to ave you back :))

    Also a masive congratulations again. So pleased you’re expecting again. My son’s a February boy and I wouldn’t have it any other way

    thanks for sharing this beautiful recipe too. Love it!

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    • ElenoreEarth
      11 november, 2015

      I’m so thrilled this post landed in your lap in the right time. We’re all weaving this great creative universe together so I’m not surprised. It’s going to be so interesting welcoming a little Aquarius (just like myself!) to our family and I thank you so for your love, sister! Go live your musts babe!

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  6. Alexi
    1 november, 2015

    Agree this is such an important question and conversation. Thank you so much for sharing your experience Elenore.

    I think a lot about our relationships to social media and sharing. Does it expand our empathy? How we express our vulnerability so publically and what happens when we one day decide – no that’s not for sharing. The moments we want ‘re-evaluating’ or ‘processing’ to appear on our social media. Or the idea of technology overwhelms.

    Also among all the noise of so many people sharing, how do we make sure it furthers our empathy and connectedness through sharing authentically (usually from a place of must) vs. sharing from a detached/forced way (perhaps from a place of should).

    Will think further on this now :)

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    • ElenoreEarth
      11 november, 2015

      I love the way your thoughts are buzzing! .. and I couldn’t agree more. It’s a HUGE topic and I think we do ourselves a favor if we think about it from time to time and reevaluate where we’re at. Shoulds are bound to creep in but our musts CAN lead the way! Biggest hug!

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  7. Nada
    1 november, 2015

    Congratulations Elenore!
    Another life, another miracle!

    Thanks for the post, it really resonated with me today… trying to figure out my musts in regards to being a mama and ignoring the fluff all around it. It can be tough but you’re so right. Taking a moment. pause. and I’ll get there!

    :)

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    • ElenoreEarth
      11 november, 2015

      I feel you Nada! I gotta say, it’s definitely mamahood that has made this topic peak for me. It’s such a huge change in life and we’re bound to reevaluate the way you think, live and work AND what really truly matters in the end. Hugs to you’!

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  8. Simone
    1 november, 2015

    Great article Eleanor. Youve so beautifully put into words how generations believe social media is a ”must” need in life. I never really understood the obsession but I was brought up on a farm before computers were even in our house! I remember being in my late teens when a friend first told me about this amazing internet thing that you can type in say ”tiger” and up will come pictures! I was in my 30’s before iPhones came into our lives. I KNOW in my heart that a fabulous life exists without social media. I lived my childhood, my teens, and my 20’s leading a very happy life without it. I have more of an understanding now for my children’s attachment to it. But the tricky part is the detachment…..

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    • ElenoreEarth
      11 november, 2015

      Hey Simone! Hey – even I remember that time! The world has changed so quickly and a million amazing things have come with it for sure. I mean it may have brought upon us the biggest question there is – living our lives in our shoulds or our musts. If we let our musts lead, that’s when we can make serious positive change and miracles in this world. I trust that. Thank you so much for sharing your story and thoughts! I appreciate you so.

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  9. Shanna | Kiss My Bowl
    1 november, 2015

    I absolutely couldn’t agree more with you Elenore. I have Tony Robbin’s cds in my car too, along with some other really awesome and inspiring voices. I listen to them over and over, getting something new out of them each and every time. Whatever the universe needs me to know or look at in that moment, bam in the middle of the highway it’s me, Tony and a bunch of life lessons. One of my favourite parts that Tony talks about is with weight loss, how until it’s a must – you’ll always just think you SHOULD go to the gym. It’s a tangible statement, because weightloss is such a common complaint in our day and age. I think that him relating SHOULDS and MUSTS to something that most people have either felt or discussed with loved ones is genius.

    ”Our truth will without a doubt call in the ones that are meant to stand beside us. Our tribe, our forest. ” – This is perfect. I have felt this connection to you for many years now, even emailing and facebooking you once and a while to thank you for that. I think that the connections that can be built online are fantastic, that we can move mountains with the click of a button just by like minded people getting together. The amazement that can come from sharing feelings with so many other people across oceans is something that gets me all the time. That being said, taking a break and really allowing some individual reflective time, some time to get back to the roots of who we all are as individuals. So necessary. Most importantly (for me anyway) when it comes to Instagram is taking a break and realizing that it doesn’t matter if someone unfollows or whatever. If we are all being genuine and true, as you said – our tribe will stand. Thank you for these lovely reminders, Elenore. Much love from Canada! (Phew, sorry for rambling!) xx

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    • ElenoreEarth
      11 november, 2015

      Shanna! You bright light you! I’m gonna start with this – I love your instagram.. tehe ;) Thank you for ‘rambling’ some wise ass rambles up there, sister! I keep my fingers crossed that we get to meet one day and in the meantime I love that you are a part of creating huge change online with your authenticity, magic and creations. I’d love to know which other awesome voices you have there in your car! It would be fun with some new highway friends! Please share with us, babe! Ps. that unfollow thing got to me for a while last week so I re-read this post and all was yet again right in the world. Phew, what a ride this life is :)

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  10. Eve
    2 november, 2015

    This is just what I needed right now. I have been telling myself for a while now to grab a book when I hop in the tub instead of checking out Instagram, I have been telling myself to have a nap in the afternoon when my baby sleeps instead of over analyzing my latest blog post. Like you, I NEED to go outside everyday or I lose it. And I mean lose it. It’s actually a little terrifying to see myself lose my temper. I have had a couple freak outs in the past couple weeks. Afterwards I just sit in silence and cry. Who am I? What am I becoming? This is not the mother I want to be… This is not the mother that I am…

    As a stay-at-home-mama, I am just starting to build a business from home. Which has meant a lot of time online and on social media, trying to get the word out. But now that my shop has opened I’m telling myself that I already did all the hard ”screen” work. Now is time for the good, fun stuff. The reasons why I worked my butt of for weeks. The reasons why I literally felt myself being drained from the screen, but couldn’t pull away knowing that I would lose my productivity. The reasons why I do all that I do.
    We have a routine of going outside everyday twice a day (at least). Once for a big walk and once to just hang out and do whatever. I NEED this time, and I NEED to remember that. Today, for example, it was rainy and gross, so we stayed inside. But I stayed away from the computer and played with my baby and we read book after book after book. Because that is my reason for doing & that is my need.

    So many words, so so many words, to say that I can relate 100% and I am so happy you posted this. As it is sometimes easier to hear what we need to hear from someone other than ourselves.

    Happy Day.

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    • ElenoreEarth
      11 november, 2015

      Hi Eve. I thank you truly for sharing your thoughts and story with me and with us all. It seems like you’re truly following a must growing that glorious business of yours. And hey – you’re a mama! Hello biggest accomplishment EVER! Remember that. Your words inspire me, our nature-must is so similar and I guess we both gotta remember what I wrote up there: It’s not until we’re full that we can actually give. Right in this moment you’re giving so much to your babe and that’s the most precious precious gift you can hand to the world. Keep taking those baths and read those books and enjoy those naps when you can!! I salute you and appreciate you.

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  11. Marina Garcia
    2 november, 2015

    Beautiful words Elenore, thanks so much for sharing so honestly from your heart. I’m so happy to read a new recipe of yours again too ; )

    Love love x xxx

    Marina

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    • ElenoreEarth
      11 november, 2015

      Thank you so much Marina! I’m so glad you appreciate it <3 I hope you get a chance to try the latte - it's divine! Big love!

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  12. laura
    2 november, 2015

    thank you Elenore so much for this Text!!! good luk to you!

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  13. Cassandra
    2 november, 2015

    Incredible woman with your brave heart and beautiful ideas and stunning wardrobe(!), thankyou for reminding me of this. Perfect timing. As always. xxx Cassandra

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    • ElenoreEarth
      11 november, 2015

      Haha, aw Cassandra – that’s so sweet of you to say ;) I thank you SO for your words and I’m incredibly honored and thrilled that you came here and read it all <3 <3 We change the world together!

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  14. Leah
    2 november, 2015

    hello love, elderberry syrup is a staple at our house during the winter months. keeps us healthy during cold and flu season. wonderful your twist, both the spices and the latte! will make one today.

    also, thank you for your words about social media. i’ve never been comfortable with it, always feels forced for me. tried several platforms a couple of times, but always closed up shop after a short time. too much pressure to have new content. and with a little one, i really would rather spend time being present for her and not be on some tech device. she’s growing up right before my eyes and want to miss as little as possible of her sparkly magic. so i’ve decided that what feels right is to start blogging again, and fill my web space with what i’m longing to share, when it’s ready to be shared and that’s it. and that’s enough.

    lots of love and gratitude from maine. xoxo

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    • ElenoreEarth
      11 november, 2015

      Darling Lea, it’s very inspiring to hear more about your story and background. You’re creating such a big change in the world with or without social media – that’s for sure. AND your time with your daughter is just so much more important than any ‘fluff’. I salute your decision and am grateful that you are following your must and your heart. <3

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  15. Martine
    2 november, 2015

    Can’t wait to make this! How long does the syrup keep in the fridge?

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    • ElenoreEarth
      11 november, 2015

      Hi Martine!
      It’ll last for roughly 3 months. Make sure you sterilize the jar, always use a really clean spoon when serving it and don’t keep it in room temperature for longer then you need. Best of luck!

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  16. Lane | Green Spirit Adventures
    2 november, 2015

    First – congratulations! I am so, so happy for you and your growing family and I’m sending all four of you all the love in the world!! So incredible!

    This post was everything I needed to hear. I have missed your blog posts so much these past few months, but it’s really wonderful to hear that you took the break you needed!
    I just got back from a one-month blog break… though it didn’t really feel like all of the break that I needed, so I’m definitely going to be clearing away more of the ”fluff”.
    This summer I came to realize why I was so frustrated and overwhelmed by blogging – it had started as a way to share from my soul and I really truly loved it, but there was never any feedback. It was weird to put my soul out there and think that no one cared. You talked about connection, which was a huge reason for beginning my blog. I wanted to reach other people, share my stories and hear theirs. I see this wonderful blogging community and I was so struggling to find a way to be part of it. It just wasn’t working. Eventually I stopped sharing from my soul. I spent so much time thinking about giving up blogging because ”no one even cares”.
    After my break I feel a little more relaxed about it all. I still love to play with my food, and even if no one cares much about the soul sharing posts now, perhaps someone will stumble upon my little space in the future, and that will be just wonderful too! It may not feel like connection now, but that’s perfectly all right.
    Anyway, your words resonated so deeply with me and I am so, so eternally grateful for your site and the way you are willing to share your heart and soul with all of us. I’m sending you so much love and many happy blessings, beautiful soul!!

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    • ElenoreEarth
      11 november, 2015

      Beautiful Lana. You’re authenticity always shines through and it will keep doing so when you stay true to yourself and only spend time here when you really truly feel like it. Your space have always had such a radiance to it – it’s super obvious to me and I am incredibly happy that you are a part of the community of spirited and wildly amazing women sharing online/this world and making it a brighter place every day just by being you. I appreciate you immensely. Lots and lots of LOVE /Elenore

      Ps. You know I still cannot comment on your blog? I need to have an account on wordpress.com to do so and I don’t. This may be a bigge. You feel like no one is there but I think there are! Just let us in on the commenting action , sister :)

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      • Lane | Green Spirit Adventures
        13 november, 2015

        I can’t even tell you how much your words mean to me!! <3

        That issue with the comments is so frustrating! You mentioned it before and I tried to fix it – but according to my settings it shouldn't even be a problem! I don't know what's going on…

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  17. Michelle
    2 november, 2015

    Thank you for this, Elenore. Your posts are often so timely for me. I discovered your website last winter and your words have so much value and encouragement for me. My family and I are on the brink of some pretty serious change and evaluating the musts from the shoulds will help a lot. Thank you for being you and putting these words out to read.

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    • ElenoreEarth
      11 november, 2015

      Yes yes YES! This is amazing Michelle! Bring on those musts <3 <3 I am so grateful that you are here and that I can spread some light and love in your world! Biggest hugs and so much love. Thank you for sharing, I so appreciate it.

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      • Michelle
        1 december, 2015

        You are so sweet! Much love and hugs right back at you.

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  18. Sophie | The Green Life
    3 november, 2015

    Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts here Elenore. This post is a much welcomed reminder. <3

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    • ElenoreEarth
      11 november, 2015

      That is fantastic, Sophie! I love that! We’re all in this together!

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  19. Sarah
    3 november, 2015

    PPPHHHHEEEEEWWWW! Thanks for saying all the things that have been on my mind lately. It’s SO HARD to balance it all, keeping our shoulds in check while flexing our musts muscles! Haha…you hit the nail on the head, as usual. Thanks for your honesty, beautiful one.

    And I love you.

    xo, Sarah B

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    • ElenoreEarth
      11 november, 2015

      You goose you ;) Ah, I love you. Feels silly to write that here but you know, you’re just in my thoughts always anyway <3 Let's talk more about it when we meet. In the meantime - yes! Let's flex those muscles! I love your way with words ;)

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  20. McKel
    4 november, 2015

    Sarah just shared this with me and I’m SO HAPPY she did! Thank you for voicing this, it’s what we all think, or at least I hope it crosses most of our minds. Social media and plugging in has benefits and definite drawbacks. Thanks for this gentle reminder of manifesting the must vs. should!

    With so much light and love, xM

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    • ElenoreEarth
      11 november, 2015

      Beauty! So great to hear that this all resonate with you! I agree – it’s such a crazy biggie. We’re doing what we’re doing to create change and plant seeds of miracles and we can only do so when fully in our zone working from our musts. I think more and more investing in our selves to be able to fully step up is where it’s at (I have a feeling you have some great tricks when it comes to this btw!).

      Sending over the biggest hug of appreciation and gratitude for you being you. Hope to meet one day <3

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  21. Sophie
    4 november, 2015

    Oh gosh! Thanks for the breath of fresh air, Elenore! Posting and media upkeep is a real big ‘should’ for me too, and such a source of anxiety and guilt (big sighhhhh). Sometimes its easy to loose track of the fact you’re doing it for you, and not for others. It’s funny how once you step away from some of those ‘shoulds’, you’re able to see the musts qualities hidden within them <3

    xox
    Sophie

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    • Julia
      5 november, 2015

      It is SO comforting and enlightening to know that some of my heroes in the food and photography realms (I’m talking about you two Elenore and Sohpie) struggle with the ”shoulds” of posting too!

      I have often been plagued by insecurity about the content and consistency of my posts. I am super inspired by the beauty and deliciousness of the creations of so many amazing foodies and can get caught up in self judgement, loosing sight of what I feel passionate about creating/sharing in the race to measure up to those I admire.

      Thank you so much for putting words to these raw feelings Elenore and a big hurrah for taking a break when you need one! I am choosing to focus on sharing from my heart, not just because its on my to-do list

      <3

      Julia

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      • ElenoreEarth
        11 november, 2015

        Julia! You bright shining star! Don’t ever doubt (and if/when you do, rise up and dust yourself off) your creations and soul-filled ramblings are ALWAYS so effing spot on its wild. This world needs YOU!!! I have so much love for you and your work.

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    • ElenoreEarth
      11 november, 2015

      Darling Sophie <3 <3 <3 I agree, there sure are so many glimmering diamonds once we step back and view it all from a more relaxed point in ourselves as apposed to the speedy 'should' mentality. I love you for doing what you are doing and sharing what you are sharing.

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  22. Avril Eastwood
    4 november, 2015

    Elenore you are wise beyond your years. I understand your words and am grateful for a reminder. You have put into words what others can’t and I really think we all need a jog in that direction. I don’t spend too much time on the internet or my phone but still could do with a break from all the things that go with our new found social media and internet. At 54 I know of life before we were all plugged in and would love to show those whose lives have always been full of it, what it was like. I am guilty of sitting on my phone most nights and mornings catching up on things, emailing, reading blogs. I do have a break now and again but your words have reminded me that it’s time to have a break again.
    You have taught me so much about a different way of making food and all the fantastic things you post. I will follow you whenever you are there to follow. In your time not anyone else’s, during your’musts’ and not ‘shoulds’. Look after yourself and keep on being who you are. Love and great respect Avril xx

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    • ElenoreEarth
      11 november, 2015

      Deep love and respect for you too Avril. Truly. I am so glad and honored to hear a little part of your story any hey- why don’t you show what it was like before we all plugged in?! I still remember but even my younger siblings have been it their whole lives. A lil’ business idea right there ;) ..tehe. I have so much gratitude for the fact that I can send you inspiration in food and all adventures that comes with it and I truly appreciate your words!

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      • Avril Eastwood
        28 november, 2015

        I’ve just returned to your post for another read and to make your elderberry syrup (I’ve just ordered some dried ones with my natural food order) ? ?
        Your post still makes a lasting deep impression on my soul and I have been trying to put some of my shoulds and musts into place. It’s much harder than I thought it would be ?
        Saying that I have just restarted writing a blog. I tried a couple of years ago and I didn’t keep it up because I became obsessed with it. But this time with the help of your wise words I will go into it with a different frame of mind.
        One question if you have the answer (I may just have to guess). Do you know the equivalent measurements of elderberries if I use dried? If not no hassle ? I can always soak some of them overnight and let then expand to measure them.
        Enjoy life and love with your family over this festive season. It will be so special seeing Caspian’s little face watching all the splendid fun things and feeling all the love round him at this time of the year.
        I’m of to try and make some gluten free pastry for my homemade fruity Christmas mix (name change but basically mincemeat) (no nasties in, not even any vegetable suet, all fruity goodness).
        And my elderberry (hehe yours) syrup.
        Love and light dearest Elenore xx

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  23. Christine // my natural kitchen
    5 november, 2015

    Thank you for this. You have a way of articulating what I think many of us feel and it’s reassuring to feel we aren’t alone in these fears (but also in feeling the need to pull back sometimes). I haven’t posted anything on my blog since June. It’s been a crazy few months for me and I have the overwhelming feeling of guilt around not posting (because I ”should be”) and whenever anyone asks me about it, I feel I need to apologize and explain. But honestly, I just needed to have it off my plate for awhile because I’ve just been so depleted by all the other demands in my life lately. Not all bad things, but things that needed my attention. I want to get back into things but I feel a bit nervous – what if no one is there anymore? That kind of fear can be debilitating in itself. For me, I just try to remember why I started in the first place and that this was/is supposed to be fun for me and a way to express some creative energy and connect with others. The ”shoulds” and all the feelings that go along with them can be so overwhelming sometimes, but I’m so grateful for your view on this. Focusing on the ”musts” puts it all into perspective. Big warm hugs and congratulations to you, also, on your pregnancy! That’s such happy and exciting news xo

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    • ElenoreEarth
      11 november, 2015

      Hey Christine! We’ve been through exactly the same it seems.. <3 <3 Hence these words right here: "Many times in our life we will have things that we need to prioritize more then our online presence (yes again, even if it’s related to work). I think we have to remember that while technology and all the possibilities it brings is absolutely amazing, life, our very real life still goes on and is waiting for us to stop, stare a bit …and be in awe".

      I think you're on the right track and keep shining your light based in your musts will without a doubt keep you inspired and draw in the once that are meant to be there. With lots of love!

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  24. montse
    5 november, 2015

    Dear Eleonoor,
    I love your pictures. They have improved so much compared to a couple of years ago. Would you be so kind to tell us which camera do you use and which lens doe you apply to it?

    Keep up the wonderful work! I hope once your tv program will be broadcasted in Holland on 24 kitchen.

    Congrats too with your new baby.
    Hugs
    montse

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    • ElenoreEarth
      11 november, 2015

      That is so kind of you to say <3 I use a Nikon D90 and a couple of different lenses, mostly a 100mm and a 55mm 1.4f. Dreaming of a 35mm.. :)

      Lots of fingers crossed for subtitles for sure!

      Big love!

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  25. Alina
    5 november, 2015

    Congratulations, Elenore
    Fantastic news. Waiting for more cuteness on your instagram)))
    And thank you for another great recipe and wise words.
    All the best.

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    • ElenoreEarth
      11 november, 2015

      Thank you so much Alina! I appreciate it a lot <3

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  26. Kathleen
    6 november, 2015

    This really is incredible. I totally hear you on this one! And the elderberry too! My 100-year-old grandmother in Upstate NY swears by it, so I know what you say is true. As for the musts ad shoulds, you are so right! I am going to look into this and my lifestyle because I get bogged down in the shoulds too. I read your blog (and My New Roots and Small Measure) as my relaxing and fun thing to do for myself…then I share the recipes and tips with my sisters. Thank you again Elenore and congratulations on your TV show and baby!

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    • ElenoreEarth
      11 november, 2015

      Aw Kathleen! This is amazing, I thank you so for your words here <3 ..and I agree, I think it's quite a big topic and one that sure takes some continuous pondering on. It's so rad that your grandmother swears by elderberry syrup! She obviously rocks!

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  27. Deborah
    9 november, 2015

    hi Elenore. Thank you very much for your fab post. Insightful and honest!

    Recently I’ve been thinking that the world is so much bigger than google or Facebook or Instagram etc. although I often ‘behave’ as if the world stops with the Internet! You’ve just articulated my thoughts beautifully. Thank you!

    Enjoy your pregnancy and love getting your posts and recipes whenever they appear!

    :)

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    • ElenoreEarth
      11 november, 2015

      Ah yes! So many incredible things going on right before our sweet lil’ noses :) Stopping for a bit and standing in our musts I think is a great way to be apart of the grandness of the non-internet world and then we can hang out online when we really truly feel like we want to and not because we ‘should’. So much love to you!

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  28. Michelle | LALL Nutrition
    12 november, 2015

    Hello Elenore!

    I can totally relate to your feelings. I felt all the shoulds last year up until I became pregnant and could not blog or go near the computer (to do anything but read baby blogs lol). I absolutely could not stomach it! I had to let go of my blogging should.

    I always want to put out authentic information but the nagging shoulds of online presence get in my head. My musts end up winning but I also fear I am not putting myself out there enough to find my tribe.

    It really is about trusting your own rhythm and the universe to guide you and to not do things out of fear (a definite work in progress for me). I was listening to Brene Brown on Tim Ferriss’ podcast and she said something to the effect of you do your best work when you come from a place of feeling good enough. That feeling good enough doesn’t make you complacent but rather more powerful. This is always the goal!

    Congrats on the new little babe and take the time you need :) This is such a precious and sacred time in which all your creative energy is flowing inwards!

    ~Michelle :)

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  30. Sara
    6 december, 2015

    Hi Elenore, can I make this syrup using storebought organic elderberry juice ?

    Thank you !

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